Posted by: CeCe | May 28, 2012

Crap non-skinny people say

So a few nights ago, I posted a blog entitled “Crap skinny people say”, which can be found here and I figured it was only fair I post the other side.  So without further ado, here are the top 4 (there were going to be five, but I couldn’t think of a fifth!) silly/hurtful things that some non-skinny people say about skinny people:

1)  You need to eat more!  I’ve been guilty of this one myself.  Here’s what’s wrong with it:  This is the other side of “you need to eat less”.  Everyone’s body is different.  Some people can eat and eat and eat and never gain an ounce.  I have several friends who eat like there’s no tomorrow and still fall within the “underweight” category.  Just like some people can’t lose weight by simply eating “less”, others cannot gain weight by simply eating “more”.

2)  Real women have curves/meat on their bones!  This is so unbelievably hurtful.  Again, we’re all different.  Some women are naturally slender with what’s called a “boyish” frame (personally, I feel that’s a pretty horrible term, can’t we find something a bit less degrading?).  While a person may be able to change their weight, changing their frame is a completely different story.  Sorry ladies, but it’s true.  Putting more “meat on your bones” is not going to change your frame.  If you’re naturally curvy, you will be curvy pretty much no matter what you weigh.  If you are naturally not curvy, gaining or losing weight won’t change that.  Same with pear and apple shapes; you can change your weight, but your shape won’t change.

3)  Being a stick is not attractive.  I know that most of the time when things like this are uttered, it’s a defense mechanism and is meant to deflect ridicule.  I’m sure most others know that too.  But it’s still a really mean-spirited thing to say.  Just because a man or woman is super skinny does not mean that they’re not attractive.  My slender friends who can’t seem to gain an ounce are all beautiful, and if you’re like them, you are too!

4)  He/she is obviously anorexic/bulimic.  This is the other side of “he/she obviously has diabetes type 2 and hypertension and eats fast food every day”.  Making this kind of assumption based upon nothing more than what a person weighs is wrong and judgmental.  Who knows if they’re suffering from an eating disorder, or if they just have a metabolism that very quickly processes whatever they eat?

Now I know that not all skinny people say the things I posted in my last blog, and I also know that not all non-skinny people say the things I’m putting here.  Mostly I guess I just want to call attention to the fact that it’s so hard to attain society’s idea of beauty.  The vast majority of people in the world do not fit society’s definition of beautiful.  What we as a society need to stop doing is being so critical of each other.  As long as we’re happy and healthy, what does it matter if we’re overweight or underweight?  Instead of promoting an ideal weight, we should be promoting an ideal lifestyle.  Drink lots of water, go for walks, exercise, stretch, eat fruits and vegetables, and try to stay away from processed and/or fried foods.  Everything else will fall into place if we promote those things, I think.

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  1. Reblogged this on Push Dump Fat Button.

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