Posted by: CeCe | April 21, 2013

I’m offended!

Earlier today one of my friends posted a picture from the Facebook page Tacoma Memes in which someone had stated they were offended by a picture that the page had posted in reference to today’s date (4/20).  This got me thinking about some of the things that I’ve personally witnessed as having offended someone’s delicate sensibilities.  I’ve seen threats to unfriend someone over their opinion on gun control, to liberalism versus conservatism, to socialism versus capitalism, to atheism versus theism, and everything in between.  I’ve seen people who were offended over their liberal friends *gasp* daring to post things in support of their views, and vice versa.  I have personally been witness to some of my friends having their accounts locked over someone reporting something that offended them on that friend’s feed, and I have seen threats to unfriend someone over the silliest things.

In fact, I’ve even been unfriended myself by someone I know in real life, and I have a feeling it was over my political views (I’m pretty liberal, and they were conservative), because it happened just after I posted a picture from the Being Liberal Facebook page about not hating those who don’t share one’s political views.  Rather ironic that this person unfriended me less than an hour later.

The one and only time I’ve ever unfriended and blocked someone over any issue on Facebook was when they became hateful towards me, basically accusing me of misandry due to my passionate protests against rape and rape culture.  That was offensive, because he made it a personal attack.

I guess I’m just wondering why some people have this attitude that the internet should cater only to them, and then insulate themselves against any views that *gasp* are opposite to their own.  Just because you think you’re right doesn’t mean that you are.  Just because I think I am right about everything I believe does not mean that I am (though I probably am, since I know everything, of course *wink wink*).  Why not expose yourself to as many different perspectives as you can?  Who knows, you may learn something, or maybe those who hold those opinions will!  Why deprive yourself of that opportunity?

I’m also wondering why people are offended by the stupidest things.  Here are some things that offend me:
-Bigotry and hatred
-The glorification of violence
-Rape culture
-The fact that statistics have shown that at least 70% of the nation’s homeless youth are lesbian or gay, even though homosexuality only exists in 4-10% of the population
-The fact that at any given moment, a child out there is breathing his or her last because his or her parents chose to beat him or her to death
-The fact that there are currently thousands of children starving to death
-That there are so many women in the world who feel that they have no choice but to have an abortion.  Fifty million a year!
-Nationalism to the point of xenophobia
-Judgmental behavior
-That one in four women and one in five men are sexually assaulted before they turn 25
-That so many of our nation’s homeless are veterans
-That war still exists; we should be beyond that by now!
-That so many people think that everyone should share their opinions on every little thing, and if they don’t, then they take it as a personal insult
-Greed and apathy

I’ve said before in a previous post that society has this tendency to strain out a gnat (small disagreements on unimportant issues), but is so willing to swallow a camel (ignore the things that really matter), and never is this more apparent than on the internet.  That is something that I find particularly offensive.  But if you’re like that, I’m not going to unfriend you or report you over it, I’ll just shake my head and move on to something else.

So here’s how I see it.  I don’t care if you are liberal or conservative, if you smoke cannabis or are completely against it, are a theist or an atheist, believe homosexuality is a sin or not, are for or against gun control, are Republican or Democrat, are Arab, Caucasian, Hispanic, Asian, or whatever else.  If you live a life of compassion, empathy, and humility, if you try to treat those around you with respect, if you strive to be peaceful and tolerant, if you are open-minded enough to accept that not everyone has to share your views to be worthy of respect, then I’m proud to call you my friend and share the planet with you.

So now I’d like to hear from you.  What offends you personally?  Have you ever unfriended someone over a disagreement?  Please feel free to tell me about it in a comment!


  1. What really offends me: is first: plain old ignorance, plain and simple, second: poor grammar (and we are all guilty of it at one time or another), and third: illegal aliens being catered to as if they are royalty.. Politics aside.. You know me CeCe, I tend to be a conservative person, then again that it generally comes with the “clerics”. I am a caring soul, and try to love all people and even being “conservative”, will carry on a polite conversation with people of different beliefs. We all do not have to believe the same thing, we also do not have to beat each other on the head with a sledge hammer to get our view to be accepted. I speak my peace kindly and quietly and leave it at that. If I say anything at all.

    Good Blog my friend!

    • Thank you Eddie! And the way I see it, variety is the spice of life. I know you as being an extremely compassionate, kind person, and I’m very blessed to know you, even if only online! ❤

  2. I have only blocked one person for their political rants, but it was only after the second time he suggested all republicans kill themselves. He was violent and aggressive over someone disagreeing with his ideals.

    I have, however, kept other friends that are passionate about their political views, even when they stoop to low blows about things I believe. Everyone has a right to their own opinions. I typically ignore republican bashings. Though, I have voiced my concerns about abortion being used entirely too much as last minute birth control when it would be so much easier to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.

    I have only ever blocked one other person and it was because he was so concerned with not being a “yes man” that he had something negative to say about *anything* I ever posted. I have a lot of tolerance for different views, but attacking me about my own isn’t a thing for which I have a long fuse.

    • And that is completely understandable! Thanks for your comment, Kari! 🙂

  3. Overall, I am an easy going conservative person, and it does take a lot to offend me. The first things that get me to shake my head everytime is today’s culture having such a sense of entitlement, and a my way or the highway view of the world. We can seriously narrow our world with that way of thinking, giving hate so much more room to grow. That being said, I have un-friended someone who found it necessary to spew their negative beliefs about soldiers on my page where my son might by chance see it. Now, since you know me and my husband, you understand why this is a no-go for me ;). I don’t believe that everyone should think the same way I do, that is the beauty of the world, so many new experiences and ideas. Like chocolates, not all types will suit an individual. Pick your favorites, but still love them all.

    • Also completely understandable! I’d be offended over someone saying horrible things about soldiers too. Most soldiers are dedicated individuals who just want to serve our country, and instead of condemning all for the actions of the few, we should commend them all until and unless they prove that they don’t deserve it. Thank you as always for your comments, Lisa!

  4. Thanks, CeCe– at a time when so many use Facebook to bash others (or their views), I truly appreciate your desire to encourage a civil conversation– especially among folks who hold very different viewpoint. “Blessed are the peacemakers…” May we all play a similar part in seeking healing, wholeness, and God’s shalom.

    • Amen! Thank you very much. 🙂

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